My husband and I have always had the habit of penning down letters to each other every anniversary. But this I felt this is also a milestone worth commemorating. And hopefully looking back in years to come, we can see how far we have come as new parents.
Dear Love of My Life,
As we step into this new chapter of our lives, embracing the wonders and challenges of parenthood, I find myself reaching out to you, not just as my partner but as my pillar in this incredible journey we’ve embarked upon together.
I know we both had envisioned these initial days with our newborn filled with nothing but joy and excitement. And while my heart is overflowing with love for our little one, I must confess, I am exhausted. I am physically tired, emotionally spent, and at times, just overwhelmed. The pain of childbirth lingers, and my body, still reeling from the changes, craves rest — a rest that seems so elusive with our little one needing us round the clock.
In these moments, when I’m too fatigued to even think of rest, I need you to be my gentle reminder. Encourage me to sleep, to take a moment for myself, to heal. It’s hard for me to step away, but your reassurance makes a world of difference.
In the midst of caring for our baby, I sometimes forget to care for myself. I might skip meals or overlook my own needs. Please feed me when I forget to eat, urge me to rest when I overlook it. Treat me with the tenderness you would our baby, for in many ways, I am reborn too — a new mother, finding her footing.
I am reborn too – a new mother, finding her footing.
My emotions are like a rollercoaster right now, a tumultuous ride that I can’t seem to control. It’s the hormones, still unsettled, still finding their new balance. So when I seem irritable or when tears come too easily, please know it’s not truly me. It’s this temporary storm of hormones, and I need your patience, your understanding, and most of all, your unwavering love. I promise you, this storm will pass, and I will find my way back to the calm.
Your help around the house means more than you might realize. It’s not just about the tasks themselves; it’s the feeling of being supported, of not having to bear the burden of household responsibilities or the mental load alone. I don’t want to ask; I don’t want to feel like I’m nagging to help me lift the weight of the world off my shoulders.
Being proactive in caring for our baby means the world to me. It’s not just about sharing the responsibilities; it’s about sharing the journey of parenthood – in all its beauty and its challenges. From the exhausting midnight feedings, endless bottle washing, to the hectic diaper changes, your involvement ensures that I don’t feel like I’m navigating this path alone.
This might come as a surprise, but I also need your help in creating a sanctuary for us to bond and heal as a new family. While I appreciate the love and excitement of friends and family, the influx of visitors can be overwhelming for me and baby. Please help me in keeping our space calm and private, allowing us (especially me) some much-needed downtime to rest, recover, and enjoy these special moments as our family grows.
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, please check in with me. Check in with me, not just as the mother of your child, but as the woman you love. Amidst the constant focus on the baby, I often feel invisible, yearning for the connection and recognition of my own needs and emotions. Ask me how I’m doing, listen to my fears and hopes, and share yours too. Let’s be each other’s confidant, each other’s source of strength.
Amidst the constant focus on the baby, I often feel invisible.
As I wrap up this heartfelt note, I want to say thank you. Thank you for being my rock, my partner, and the incredible parent I always knew you’d be. Our journey through parenthood is just beginning, and while it’s not always easy, it’s our shared love and commitment that make every challenge worth facing.
So, here’s to us, to this incredible adventure, and to the deep, unwavering love that guides us through. I dream of the days ahead, where the chaos subsides, and we find our rhythm in this new life. A future where our laughter fills the air, where our love envelopes our home, and where our little one thrives, surrounded by the warmth of our united front. So, as we step forward into the unknown, let’s hold on to the love that brought us here, letting it guide us, strengthen us, and inspire us to be the best for each other, and for our beautiful child.
With all my love, now and always,
Your Forever Love
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